It’s the end of the year, which means it’s time for New Year’s Resolutions. As I have for the last few years, I’m writing a future letter to myself — a different take on resolutions and goals for 2018. What is a future letter to oneself? As I wrote in 2013:
That’s the thing about New Year’s resolutions — sometimes it’s a one and done type of thing, like “run a marathon PR this year.” Or lose 10 pounds. But other times, the goal is more nebulous: Be a more supportive partner. Communicate better. It’s not a one-time thing — it’s a lifelong thing.So when I read about the concept of a Future Letter to Yourself on Jess Lively’s blog, I was intrigued. It’s like New Years resolutions meets your ideal resume plus your Amazon.com wish list and your travel bucket list. OK, maybe that’s just my letter, but it’s basically a letter to me, Natasha, written from the perspective of one year hence … about all the accomplishments I’ve achieved and positive changes I’ve enacted — large and small — over the course of the future year …
Next week I’ll share the “results” of my 2017 letter to myself, but first I’ll tell you a little bit about my 2018 letter and what I’m hoping will have happened in my life come January 1, 2019.My letters traditionally have covered marriage and family, career, health and fitness, travel, and creative projects/other personal interests. My 2018 letter is more or less organized into similar “buckets,” with one important addition: motherhood and parenting.Indeed, these topics, along with marriage and family, receive the bulk of attention in my letter — the entire first page. I intend to prioritize these areas of my life above all else in 2018. Here’s a sample of what’s in my 2018 Future Letter to Myself:
I took time each day to appreciate this fleeting season in our family life …
I was patient with both myself and Kail as we grew into new roles as mother and father. I understood that each challenge brought with it a learning experience that would help us grow as parents to Piopio and partners to each other.
Kail and I … frequently and honestly checked in about our personal contentment and relationship satisfaction.
We regularly emailed, texted, FaceTimed, and shared photos with our family to ensure they are a consistent presence in Piopio’s life.
Together, Kail and I strategized and bid on our next post, taking into account his career advancement, our family needs, and my career prospects.
While I did not work full-time in 2018, I gave serious consideration to what is next in my professional life and took concrete steps toward that path.
I carved out time to write everyday, whether for my blog, creatively, or otherwise.
I prepared and consumed nutritious meals, resuming my pre-pregnancy low-carb, high-protein diet. … I reached my goal weight (pre-pregnancy weight) … and returned to my pre-pregancy size by the end of 2018.
While 2018 was not a big year for international travel, Kail and I made an effort to take Piopio around to different places in Amman and in Jordan so he could get to know his first home.
Read previous future letters to myself (2013, 2014, 2015, 2016 & 2017), along with their outcomes (2013, 2014, 2015 & 2016). Stay tuned for a post about how much in my 2017 letter “came true.”What’s in your future letter to yourself/what are your New Year’s resolutions for 2018?