Walmart bakery, budget wedding, wedding cakes, two-tier wedding cake, buttercream frostingI’m married now! It is wonderful. And actually, it’s not much different than the way things were before I was married, except I’m now living with the love of my life instead of just spending excessive amounts of time together while maintaining separate abodes.That being said, we’ve only been married for one week, two days and about 15 hours, and this is my second day back at work. So we haven’t had much time experiencing our regular routine of gym-work-home-sleep … repeat. Our lives are about to change again in few months when we move. It seems the only “routine” part of our marriage these next couple months/years is going to be adapting to our very non-routine lives. Bring it on!After the best wedding weekend ever and an equally enjoyable “minimoon,” we returned to Northern Virginia — my husband to language school and me to an ambitious list of projects in which I made nary a dent during my extra time off from work.Things I didn’t do on my time off:

  • Rosetta Stone
  • Try to learn Spanish
  • Study (see a theme here?)
  • Bake amazing desserts using my new KitchenAid Stand Mixer
  • Scrapbook my wedding
  • Blog
  • Complete the process of legally changing my name
  • Set up a professional/freelancing website
  • Read several books, period
  • Get back into my running routine Run, period

I know. I know. I had four whole extra days, post-wedding, not counting the weekend. How did I spend my time?Things I did do on my time off:

  • Watched all of Season 1 of “Downton Abbey”
  • Watched almost all of Season 2 of “Downton Abbey” (I couldn’t even complete this task!)
  • Slept 9+ hours a night
  • Enroll in an online freelance pitching and writing course (this was a pretty good move — I’m proud of that)
  • Wrote thank-you cards (a modest but important accomplishment)

In my defense, I came down with something on the tail end of our minimoon (something about not sleeping enough + wedding stress + alcohol apparently weakens the immune system) so I didn’t do much of anything for two days except manage to unpack and do laundry (for the both of us, I might add). And by THEN I had gotten pretty into “Downtown Abbey” so I was hopeless.Also, I discovered that the process of changing one’s name legally requires a certified copy of one’s marriage certificate, of which I have requested — but not yet received — several copies. The fabulous website simplifies the name-changing process by auto-filling all the requisite forms and letters to notify the Social Security Administration, DMV, Passport Office, credit card companies, banks and other agencies and institutions of a legal name change.So once I receive certified copies of my marriage certificate, I can move on to step one: Social Security Card. Then step two: driver’s license. And so on — you get the name change, married name, maiden nameI realize I’m hardly the first woman to change her name after getting married. Nor am I the first to complete the process in the midst of a move or career change. And certainly many spouses have accompanied Foreign Service Officers abroad. Still, for someone who likes to accomplish tasks as efficiently as possible (the above list notwithstanding), getting through all the “regular” legal/marriage stuff in addition to the Foreign Service/moving abroad marriage stuff is daunting.We’re not just opening a joint bank account (at an institution that’s suitable for international banking), we’re making sure I’m “in the system” so I can begin the process of a security clearance, obtain a diplomatic passport, get the necessary medical examinations/vaccinations and all that jazz.It’s April. We have a couple months to get this done so I’m not TOO worried … yet. I did plan a wedding in under five months.

Published by La Vie Overseas

I'm Natasha -- writer, runner and wife to a Foreign Service Officer with USAID. Current location: Frankfurt, Germany.

9 thoughts on “Wedded

  1. So many fun changes and exciting things ahead!!! It is hard to be patient with all this stuff for sure. I can’t wait to try one of your KitchenAid Mixer desserts!!!!!!!! Thumbs up for Walmart wedding cakes. 🙂


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